Spending some time in the weddings scene has been quite interesting. In fact, it seems likely that I will be hanging around for a while. In particular traditions and their consequences on the festivities are fascinating to watch.
Traditionally a wedding was celebrated in one’s parish church so that the entire community could celebrate with you. And after that there was a reception or receiving line where folk visited you at the bride’s parent’s home where generally receptions were held so that you could be officially introduced as Mrs and Mr.
From there you and the wedding party took the walk across town or next door to your new home and you got carried over the threshold. After all you were now the property of the man…. In Asia this walk is still made accompanied by family and friends as well as all sorts of luck bringing people and lucky charms. Asia never misses an opportunity to ask for help from the luck bringing gods.
Of course these traditions depended on you actually attending a church regularly, growing up in the same city/town, keeping the same friends as you went to the city’s colleges, finding employment in the self same area and living at home until you got married.
How many people do you know who have done this?
As you can see there are some major problems in this scenario already. Now add another more recent development. The changing law, in force in 14 countries already, is allowing same sex marriages, One can see that there are some interesting confusions on the horizon.
Yet when it comes to marriage, traditions are still being adhered to in many cases. Brides are still wearing white gowns even if they are marrying another bride. Ministers are still performing marriages even if they have never met the couple. Receptions are still held with traditional cake cutting and first dance ceremonies.
And are you still being carried across the threshold even if you have been living in the same home, together, for a few years already?
Of course traditions can lag behind society and the way our life styles have and still are changing. It is rare that modern couples go through the full life path together. In fact the proliferation of online dating sites and meet up mobile phone apps are an indication that everything is changing even how we meet each other.
It will certainly be interesting to see how our wedding ceremonies adapt to the changing landscape. In particular in the gay and lesbian community one would expect some changes soon. Although of course two brides with pretty dresses are still pretty as per the image above! Still the concept of bridesmaids and groomsmen could be on the out or develop into a new format.